A silent protest

Facing Death in Rafah 2024

After a long hiatus, I have completed a picture I started last year depicting a couple in Gaza who watch the devastation unfurl around them as they fear they may be next in their family to die under the hail of bombs. This is not a covert protest in support of Palestine Action; it is an overt protest against so much mindless destruction and death at places of violence around the world. In the aftermath of the Second World War, I walked the streets of Leicester and Coventry, and later London, but saw only a spatter of bombed out houses. The devastation and waste of Gaza is worse than anything I remember or have seen, short of the pictures at Hiroshima Peace Museum depicting the final bombs of that war. Only in Hiroshima were more buildings flattened per area than Gaza, and that was with nuclear bombing. 

Today there were many arrests in London of people supporting Palestine Action, a group proscribed by the current Labour government. Most people watching the news look in horror at the mass bombing of the mostly civilian population, but following the desecration by paint of RAF bombers by protesters, even peaceful protests or holding a simple message on a sheet of paper results in arrest and possible imprisonment. Oh England, my England, what has happened to the right to peaceful protest? Since when did a ruling party block and stigmatise people objecting to mass bombing and starvation? I have not labelled my picture with words of protest; the people there speak eloquently enough without my vain words. Let us just trust that Starmer's thought police don't come knocking upon my door to arrest me for a silent protest, for in this country now, it seems even private thoughts can be offensive and be penalised! Heu, patria mea non iam est. [Alas, my country is no more!]

The boys are moving on

On Sunday, Annie was invited to meet Edwin in Bury for a shopping spree and a chat and ended up going to a Ukrainian lesbian wedding. Gay weddings are not permitted in Ukraine, so the couple seized the opportunity to hold the ceremony here while they are living in the UK while some of their relatives flew over to be with them.

Besides the wedding much has occurred in Maison Marr since last week. Edwin and Andre have finally signed and exchanged contracts for their first house; they and their dog, Morris, are to move out of Bury-St-Edmunds and into Newmarket. The boys will collect the keys tomorrow (Wednesday) and have invited us to visit the yet empty house on Thursday. As they are currently renting, they don't have to vacate their own property on the same day but will spend a week cleaning and preparing the place, with the intention of moving their furniture in the following Thursday. But not just their furniture: they have also earmarked our chesterfield, the piano, and a wardrobe to go on the van, so we spent the day looking for a new sofa and chair. Annie emptied the wardrobe and this morning I took three bags of clothes to the charity shop. By one of life's many coincidences, the boys' landlord phoned them just before they phoned him to give their notice; he is selling the house, so they have to leave anyway. He even offered them first refusal to buy the place! 

By another coincidence, a guy I have been corresponding with for some time about some papers we wrote turns out to not just be the same age as me but was also studying physics at Queen Mary College (now University) in the same three years that I was there. We each scarcely remember the other being there, but I do remember the project he had: to measure the thickness of dust on the moon using the radio telescope on the roof of the physics building by measuring infrared emissions before and during an eclipse of the moon. This was in the early 60's, before man had landed on the moon, when there was a fear that the dust layer might be so thick that the NASA lander could sink right into it. As a result of this and other work at QMC, the department was at the forefront of the moon landings and was given one of the rare samples of moon dust returned from the Apollo Eleven lander; I remember seeing it displayed in a glass case in the physics department when I returned some years later.

A visit to Dr Doom

 Dr. Doom is a severe, grey haired lady in charge of the oncology department. Her job is not always rewarding; she is dealing with people of all ages with advanced cancers, many of them young with families, and for every patient who appears to be in good remission, there must be many more she has to break bad new to. A box of tissues is never far from her. I suspect only the team in paediatric oncology have a worse job than hers.

We first met her when she told Annie and me that I had less than a year to live and could offer no further treatments, therefore they wouldn't be doing more scans. At that point, they handed me over to the MacMillan team who visited us at home, left their number and said to ring them if we needed them. That was three years ago. 

Nearly one year ago, another consultant said I should have a follow up scan. This revealed spreading cancer in the right lung, other small nodules in the left lung and liver, and a new metastasis in the deep muscles of the back. They agreed to arrange further radiotherapy to the lung, and excision and radiotherapy to the back which was done earlier this year. Three weeks ago, I had a further post-treatment scan, and yesterday we returned to Addenbrooke's for the follow-up discussion. The nurse who came out for us said we would be seeing Dr. Doom: Annie and I looked at each other and rolled our eyes.

She was still her sombre self, although conceded I had "done well", and the melanoma had remained static or even shrunk a little in the lung and disappeared from the back muscles. Nevertheless, she emphasised again there was no advantage in further scans as no further treatment could be offered and, indeed, she wondered how I had obtained another scan. We had been fully prepared for just this message, so were not too downhearted. 

We had to admit Dr Doom was very efficient: there was zero wait to get in to see her despite running a busy unit, and she had already posted her summary letter online before we got home. We noted with smiles that she stated I was happy with her decisions given the limited future options and wished me all the best for the future. The letter sounded like it had been written by a HR person saying, "we agreed you have no further prospects with this company, but good luck with your future career." But in fairness to her, I don't really feel strong enough for further surgery or radiotherapy anyway, so she is correct in her harsh assessment. Also, she did end by saying her door was always open, and I can contact the team in the future if I think they can be of help. The nurse attending summed it up by slipping me a card as we left; it had the number for the MacMillan team.

Edwin wrote a bleak poem back in January when the melanoma was noted to be spreading; I include it now to complete the atmosphere of gloom, before finally moving on to more cheerful talk next blog.

Desolation

My father is dying;
And everything is worse now.
Fatherly wisdom
Now gasped through oxygen masks
And a future of soiled bed linen.
We know what the future holds,
We need no sorcerer’s ball,
To see the pitiful ending of it all.
Howls in the night,
Awaiting sister morphine’s dripping embrace.
The great physicist’s mind
Reduced to cancerous cells.
Junior doctors telling that there
is no more to be done.
‘Pick a door; any door’,
The registrar pronounces,
three doors to choose from,
But there is no prize car waiting
only the knowing of things to come.
Decline and desolation.
All is bleak.
Hope is gone.
And fatherly affection
Replaced by cursed affliction.
The storms rage their howling, desolate ban,
As cancer ravages a once proud man.

Edwin Marr

The Pigeon

The Pigeon Dealer

In the far east, pigeon racing is a popular sport with large bets placed on each race, and a good pigeon is valuable. The picture is included to illustrate the poem and reflect the pigeon as a model of life; a simple nature, versus the greed and destructive qualities of the dealer.

I have always tried to shrug off problems, to present a cheerful, coping face to the world. Perhaps it is an attitude of war babies, the "stiff upper lip", the never complain generation. But now, living with a terminal cancer is having some effect on my attitude to life. Normally when asked how I am, I simply replied, "not too bad...", but a couple of times recently I realised I'd suddenly confessed to people who otherwise would not know, "OK, except for the terminal cancer." Perhaps it is the rogue within, wanting to see their expression, or perhaps it is a more vulnerable me, finally facing up to the reality of an inevitable death or seeking a sympathetic response.

This even appeared in a recent dream; I was a young houseman again, doing a ward round with the professor. Although amazed by the range and depth of modern tests, I was still giving a reasonable account of each case based on clinical assessment, as we used to. Then an eighty-two-year-old man was admitted; this was clearly me, although I was still the young doctor admitting him. I gave a single diagnosis just from a glance, even without an examination: "he will have bronchopneumonia. He's over eighty, we don't treat him." 

Waking in the morning, I remembered the vivid dream as I looked out of my window to see a bedraggled pigeon on the roof opposite, leading to this mournful poem. But rest assured, dear reader, I'm not usually in so sombre a mood.

The Pigeon

Astride the ridge across the way
A pigeon squats in mournful grey;
His sheen is dull, his plumage bleak,
No seeds of corn adorn his beak,

While from his wing, like flag forlorn,
A feather hangs, defeat to mourn.
He cannot smooth this hurt away
But pecks it vainly through the day.

He does not strut but slinks along;
No coos provoke his answering song;
No more to soar among his kin
With swoops of joy upon the wing.

Like him, I squat upon my chair,
My features drawn, my lank hair spare,
Those wild conjectures - once to flout -
Now poke my pain with stabs of doubt.

And all I’ve strived and strutted for
Is lost, with hope, to bear no more.
With pain intense the hurt-strikes crack,
Each memory lashed upon my back.

I too can only limp along,
No more to strive with cheery song
But curl into a rueful ball ─
Awaiting death to finish all.

John Herbert Marr

The Phantom Shoe Stealer

The Missing Shoe

 Returning home after lunch with friends, I placed my shoes on the rack then noticed one of my other shoes was missing. Ever since Sam built our purpose-designed shoe rack, we have meticulously kept the shoes neatly arranged, rather than piled higgledy-piggledy, so I noticed the gap immediately.

I know I wore the blue pair this morning taking the dog for a walk and replaced them on the shelf as I got back to put on my slippers. I am even certain they were there as a pair when I took the blue and white lace-ups to go out for dinner. But coming back I am faced with an empty gap. Neither Annie nor I can logically deduce where it has gone. We have diligently searched every room in the house. I certainly don't remember hobbling round in one shoe at any stage, or in bare socks; indeed, it is a cliche that single socks often go missing, but how often do we complain of a missing shoe? The last time was years ago in Lyme Regis, when we walked along the foot of the Jurassic Coast and Annie lost one shoe in the deep mud which sucked it off and swallowed it. But we knew where it was - only that we couldn't retrieve it, so she hobbled into a gimmicky sea-front store to buy a plastic pair of sandals for the walk back to the car.

No, this disappearance is on a different scale. I considered the possibility of a one-legged burglar, but in that case why not steal all the right shoes? Annie reminded me that we had had one visitor before we went out: the Ocado delivery man, who carried the bags into the house; but he definitely had two legs. Perhaps he had a one-legged brother who was short of a shoe? Unlikely, plus I escorted him out through the door without spotting a secreted shoe in his pocket. Ann thinks it may have been carried out mixed with rubbish, but the bins were emptied this morning so I cannot check that theory. No, much though I don't believe in the occult, it seems the only explanation now is a shoe-stealing poltergeist. I shall watch the other pairs very carefully. 

On the kindness of Londoners

The new V&A East Storehouse

For Ann's birthday last month, Edwin and Andre had treated us to tickets to the new production of Evita at the London Palladium, which we saw on Friday. The weekend coincided with the end of Andre's parents tour of Italy and Switzerland and a week staying in Bury St Edmund's (The Brazilians come to Europe), so we came up in two cars. 

We always park in the Westfield shopping centre at Stratford, and Edwin was keen to see the new V&A extension gallery in the new warehouse complex just outside the centre. He parked and walked back in a weltering 30+degrees of sun having thoughtfully dropped us at the door for a coffee. The exhibition is an eclectic mixture of the world's odds and ends, of which the V&A has over two million items, mostly stored in basements and off-site; so this was a good example of what to do with undisplayed stock which most museums have in abundance. The objects were stacked for view on great girdered shelving reminiscent of garage shelving, most still mounted and strapped to palettes for ease of transport.

Enjoying London Vegan Cuisine

One thing we have noticed about London recently is how polite and helpful young people seem to be. This started at the warehouse museum, where all bags must be locked away before admission. I was fumbling with the code lock when an attendant kindly stepped up to help, holding down a small code key while I entered an incorrect code I would never remember - but she simply wrote the locker number and the true code on a slip of paper and handed it to me with a smile. Later, on the Elizabeth line, a young man stood to offer me his seat, even though there were many seats free to either side. Generally, it is reported that the young are resentful at the privilages of we oldies, forgetting how little we too had at their age, and how hard we worked to get what we have, and certainly in supermarkets we notice the impatience of some as we oldies fumble with our cards or packing. But Annie thinks the politeness in London is linked to the high influx of newcomers who still hold a modicum of respect for age. 

We finally met up at a crowded vegan restaurant in Soho for a delicious mix of delicacies, then on to the theatre. There were long queues waiting to go through a couple of entrances, but seeing me with my stick, another young man fetched me from the queue and took Annie and I weaving through the queues to a side door which he opened with his pass, then ushered us to a lift to avoid the stairs. At the top, another attendant met us to usher us to our seats, even waiting for us while Annie went to the toilet.

The performance is amazingly innovative, especially in using live multimedia projection of Rachel Zegler's balcony performance singing Don't Cry for me, Argentina, sung on the outside balcony to the inevitable London crowd but screened to us on stage. Unfortunately, I was my usual ignorant self, not having known any of this, so I thought for some reason it must all have been pre-recorded rather than live external camera work, so the wonderful innovation was a little wasted on me. Everyone else seemed to know though, so I couldn't understand why the audience went so wild with applause for a filmed sequence! Only afterwards did Edwin explain what had been going on. Not withstanding my ignorance, it was a brilliant show and thoroughly deserving of its plaudits.

Saturday had us enjoying one of Annie's speciality cream teas, a special English treat for the Brazilian visitors, before the boys took them back to Heathrow on Sunday, via an afternoon at Kew Gardens, unfortunately in the rain as the hot spell has now broken.

The Brazilians come to Britain

Up a Swiss mountain

Edwin and Andre have been touring Italy and Switzerland with Andre's family, using the flexible Euro railcard for unlimited travel. One highlight was ascending to over 12,000 feet by a series of cable cars, where breathing is difficult, and Edwin had to buy a thick jersey against the cold, having only packed for an Italian sun. Apparently, I am to inherit it on their return - Edwin does not routinely wear jerseys.

I had agreed to pick them all up from City Airport on their return. At 6:30pm, when due to leave, we discovered their BA flight was delayed by ninety minutes, so I left about 8:00pm before they took off, as their flight time would be less than my drive time. Just reaching London at the end of the M11, Annie phoned. The flight had been delayed by another hour of more, so she advised me to turn back and wait at a roadside cafe over a cup of coffee. It being nearly ten o'clock on a Sunday night, most places were already shut, so I went back to Stansted service station. Everywhere there was close to shutting too, but I could get a KitKat and a large coffee from a Costa machine. All the flight information proclaimed the flight would still be landing at City; but City Airport has a 10pm curfew and shuts to all flights from 10:00pm.

I could watch the flight as it turned over the Thames estuary towards City, but it then did an abrupt ninety degree turn north; and Annie finally tracked it as diverted to Stansted, rather than Gatwick or God-knows where. Finishing my coffee, I drove into the short-stay at Stansted. Even at eleven pm, the arrivals hall was packed, for it is the hub of Ryanair, and this is the holiday season. A flight was landing every five or ten minutes, with crowds of dreary-eyed people, still in sun hats and fancy shirts, pouring through the gate - though all with minimal baggage, this being Ryanair: much of it looked no larger than an overnight bag. 

Intermixed were other groups diverted from Southend, where a small plane had crashed earlier and closed the airport. An hour later, after clearing immigration, the baggage handlers found a free belt for the BA flight, and a few smarter-looking and well-dressed folk began to trickle through, many with the full BA luggage allowance, marking them our from the tourists. Although Edwin knew and Annie had discovered the City curfew, the passengers hadn't been told until they were on board and now looked totally lost and confused. Even one of the flight attendents told her friend: "I don't even know where Stansted is!" British Airways clearly consider such airports beneath its dignity.

Finally, the boys came through with Elsio and Socorra, Andre's parents, desperately tired looking with their substantial cases, and eager to get a cup of coffee, for here everything was open 24 hours including Smiths and Boots, to cater for the hungry arrivals and we who wait for them, seemingly through the whole night. We drove back in relative silence; I dropped them at the boys' door to finally get home at 1:30am. I just wish them a good week here with Andre to compensate for so terrible a journey.